He was born with some problems, and sometime just before his second birthday, with the advise of doctors we had him tested in our Children's Hospital in Denver, CO. He was seriously delayed, still not walking at two, not even using words yet, the word used by doctors was, "seriously delayed."
I went and dutifully sat through weeks of exhaustive tests. It meant going down and paying for parking, and bringing my other son who was 14 months older and a daycare child I took care of. And it was downtown Denver that in itself difficult to navigate!
I tell you this to set up the story, but to go on. After those exhaustive tests, and remember he was not verbal yet, his father and I had a meeting with the PHD doctor in charge of his "case."
Nerve-racking would be putting it mildly the emotions a parent goes through when having to put their child through that, just looking to have a better understanding. Then without too much ground-work the doctor got right to the point. It was in her "learned and expert" opinion that we would be better off with our "limited" resources to place Jared in a home where he could be cared for properly!
I won't go into too much more about that except it definitely hit me like a ton of bricks to say the least. We walked slowly back to where we had parked our car, and discussed it at length. In my mind though there was a screaming voice saying "No I don't believe it!" "I don't accept that!" "I believe there is more to Jared than they can tell by their tests."
To the right is Jared today.
Let me introduce him again. If you didn't know his history, you would never suspect that at one time I worried about his ability to talk. He is almost non-stop talk, lol. He has his own Condo, he gets himself to his own job as a janitor in a government facility in Denver. He rides a bike or a bus to get just about anywhere he wants. He shops for himself, he cooks for himself, he does his own laundry, and he takes his check and puts it into his own checking account and makes purchases with minimal counsel from me from a debit card.
Jared is a self-sufficient and productive adult. He is highly capable of doing many things. He actually functions better sometimes than some that would be called "normal".
What is my point?
Other than being a proud parent, I believe that there are many individuals that get pigeoned into a certain category, or labeled and its usually false. We have no way of knowing what is inside. How much drive, how much determination. We should never ever give up.
Wrapping it up!
Today isn't directly about network marketing but it is in this one sense. Today I shared the gift of my middle child Jared. How many people do we pass up believing they can't do anything for themselves. How many do we give up on? Maybe it might take a little more effort, patience and diligence. But what might be the rewards if we do that? Might we find that he/she grew into someone that can do it with just a little extra coaching?
There have been people in my life who have believed when there was no evidence. And there have been people who gave up because they were impatient. Who was right? I know that I have much more in me than those who gave up can possibly guess, and they gave up on someone of value. Don't be the one who gives up on someone of value in your influence!
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Mentoring for Free has given me the necessary tools I needed to learn to safely remove those masks and begin to learn the right way to use the unique person that I am and help other people. I have created a clear picture of my future, and now have the tools to help others do that too. Because only when you are able to remove your mask and truly believe that you want to be real can you be there for the many others that are looking to you for help! Downloading this e-book was the start of the success I enjoy today.
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Lynda, That is an extremely heart felt story about your son. You are so right about giving up. I had a similar story, but not quite as intense. My son was diagnosed adhd when he was very young and they wanted to put him on medication right away. I even fought with my sister who had a son about the same age. She constantly told me I should put him on meds, its not fair to him...well jump 20 years later and her son who she put on meds has trouble holding a job and still lives with her, does drugs, etc... On the other side of that, My son, took his first job when he was still a senior in HS, and still works at that same job. Has an exemplary work history, is getting ready to buy his first home...You get the picture. I just don't think everyone should always take the expert opinion. I think we should all think more with our hearts. Thank you for your post!!
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I agree completely Diane. They are way to quick to medicate someone! Congratulations on your son being a successful adult!
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